Divorce is a major turning point not only in the life of a person who does go through it but most especially to the children whose family is to be broken. Divorce is one of the most impactful turning points inducing stress in adolescents. It takes 1-2 year for most but for some children the impact and stress experience from having their parents’ divorce last a lifetime. Here are 3 tips to avoid getting a divorce.
Choose your partner wisely: marriage is no joking matter.
Choosing your partner is different from skimming through the best mattresses 2019 and picking out whatever catches your eye, it requires time and patience – don’t rush when looking for a partner, he/she will come when they’re meant to come. When you have hesitations about getting married to a person, observe how people in your surroundings see your relationship. As they say, love is blind sometimes the people outside of the relationship can see better – when people close to you give a piece of advice listen to it and take it into consideration.
Get help from the right people.
When you’ve already entered marriage and are experiencing problems, talk it out with your partner – keeping everything bottled up won’t solve your misunderstandings. Don’t put your problems under the rug, sometimes we give up only because of a simple bump in the road – learn to communicate and understand, as well as reprimand your partner. When proper communication between both parties seem impossible to get help from the right people and when I say the right people, I mean professionals who understand how the brain and human behavior works – get help from a trusted psychologist. Get help from a mightier being. Talk to God in prayer and read the bible, sometimes human reasoning just can’t explain what you are going through.
Retrace your steps and try to remember why you married your partner in the first place.
Finding fault in someone is easier than finding the good points of a person or observing whether you are wrong or not – sometimes a person just needs to give way and forget their pride for once for the relationship to prosper. Honesty and understanding are key, and when it gets hard to do so try to remember why you married the person in the first place – what is it about the person that made you love him/her? Try telling each other the points that you love about each other every day – sometimes things that get repeated every day makes you forget the meaning in them, just like how I love you’s lose their meaning when repeated over and over again.