The social and economic changes during and after the COVID-19 lockdown period have been causing a lot of strain in domestic and romantic relationships.
Many married couples were not spared from the relationship-strain. The global pandemic threw in all sorts of problems, altogether at the same time; from health safety issues, lack of savings, unemployment, food security, mobility, feelings of isolation, separation from family, restlessness among children and other similar issues.
While they have been through ups and downs before, their partnership as married couples were put to a brutal test. Unfortunately, it’s a test that some couples failed to pass.
How the Lockdown Period Affected Nascent Romantic Relationships
The lockdown period was a turning point for dating couples as they had to decide whether to move in together, or stay apart for what many thought was just a short span of time.
While some romantic affairs blossomed into serious relationships by staying together during the quarantine period, other couples who took the same route subsequently regretted the decision.
The lockdown period speeded up the discovery stage that revealed certain personality traits and habits that one or both parties wanted their partners to cease or change within a short period of time.
While one could be feeling lonely and depressed from being separated from family and friends, her quarantine partner was not as bothered. His favorite online video games were still up and he was playing as if nothing else mattered except his gaming engagements.
On the other hand, where both partners are not too keen when it comes to organizing and cleaning chores, the space they shared was not conducive to feelings of positivity.
A dishevelled and dirty environment, e.g. sink stacked high with unwashed dishes, clothes strewn everywhere, stinking toilet and other similar conditions do not contribute to forming a healthy and strong relationship.
After all, while some males instinctively asserted their macho image, some females had to maintain their feminists ideals. Mainly because they do not foresee themselves as the stereotype housewife who has the super powers to keep career and home balanced.
Circumstances like these led to petty quarrels, which subsequently led to heated arguments. Situations that were so tiresome that carrying on with ordinary conversations became difficult. Throughout the quarantine period, one or both partners still wanted to tackle issues simply because of the availability of time and space and of the desire to make their time together work .
That is why dating couples who decided to stay apart fared better. Some though, said their romantic relationship failed to blossom into something more serious because they found themselves slowly drifting apart.
Are Successful Romantic Relationships a Thing of the Past?
Our point in discussing these matters is not to keep people from hoping that someday they will find that special someone who will stick with them through thick or thin. Yet it is important that one should first veer away from the fairy tale notion of living happily ever after.
Our advice is for people not to be in love with love, but with the person; including all his or her faults and shortcomings. However, this is also tricky because one could fall for a person who loves him or herself as well, which denotes a one-sided relationship.
In any situation, love can only prevail if feelings of admiration, respect, concern and caring are mutual. That way, both parties to a serious romantic relationship will be motivated to take important steps or changes that would make their union work.